‘Every Asian-American woman knows exactly what I am talking about,’ she said.‘Men come up to you in a way that really looks like a stare, which lasts a bit longer than it should. ‘It’s like they are looking through you.’ In the film, Ms Lum follows the lives of Steven, a twice-divorced 60-year-old on the hunt for an Asian bride, and Sandy, the Chinese woman half his age whom he meets on the internet and ultimately marries.According to the website for the documentary, Steven first became interested in Asian women after witnessing the success of his son’s marriage to a Japanese immigrant.
In a 2011 Psychology Today article, Dr Saedi explained that the men who desire Asian women–most of them Caucasians themselves–are sending an ‘underlying message about power, dominance and white privilege’.
It is exactly that attitude that Ms Lum sought to expose in her debut feature-length film.
Unfortunately, these are not isolated incidents but part of a larger pattern.
Why does this keep happening and why do we allow it to happen?
it is not Latina, biracial or white women that I feel threatened by, its East Asian.
I just feel like I cannot compete with them at all, no matter how feminine I am, and I am crushed by my previous guy’s comments on his Asian Fetish ( he was my first and it brought tears to my eyes)Sincerely, Anonymous 21 year old black woman Here’s my take… A white guy living in Koreatown and dating an Asian girl? I might as well be the creepy white guy in college who hangs with the foreign exchange students all day, pretending to teach them English. I mean, I’m not going to stop, but I want you to know that I’m adequately ashamed. I’d remind them that I live in Koreatown, not Japantown and they’d say, “But you asked me to bring this.” They’d be right, because I love mochi and pixilated pornography, but the implied racism would still cause me to get a little angrier inside with each bite, my rage slowly growing into a formidable reserve. As usual, the discussion went something like this:“Nice apartment, Paul. How many times per day do you troll the neighborhood for Asian girls? I haven’t seen anyone under the age of 60 in three months. I moved here because it’s nice and affordable and I like barbequed meat that you have to cook yourself even though you’re in a restaurant that has very high prices. Illustration: Liu Rui/GT Recently, an American mechanic-turned ESL teacher claimed in a video that he bedded hundreds of Chinese women in China.A few weeks earlier in the UK, a Chinese young woman, Xi Xi Bi, was killed by her white boyfriend. But adding an Asian girlfriend to what is already a stereotypical existence would be a little , don’t you think? The best she can hope for is to move to a new city where no one knows that the men she attracts are complete trash.